Equal Rights… Did You Think We Had them?

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“Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.” The proposed Equal Rights Amendment to the Constitution   That’s it.  That’s all of it.  24 words.  It says nothing about having to endure dual-sex toilets or the draft.  It pretty

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Posted on March 29th 2012 in The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

A Free School Based on Talent and Heart

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“The Heart of the Matter is Free Education.”                                                 Caroline Simonelli, Fashion Designer   How many people do you know who delight in the idea of working or vacationing in Beirut? My

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Posted on March 23rd 2012 in The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

This Wisdom Thing…

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Somebody called me a Wise Woman the other day and it almost made me laugh out loud.  Isn’t that something like those Lifetime Achievement Awards they give you in Hollywood when they can’t find roles for you anymore, I wondered? But it set me to thinking… Nobody sets out to be a Wise Woman.  You

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Posted on February 10th 2012 in The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

Biology in the Bedroom

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Ever wonder why women have sex and think they’ve fallen in love, while men have sex and think they’ve just had sex?  I may have stumbled onto an answer worth passing along.  I’m not sure I can affect anything in the interaction of the genders by making this information public, but if it could simply

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Posted on January 11th 2012 in Love, The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

List for Dakota

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My daughter Dakota is just about to graduate from college, and I have the awful maternal fear that I might have forgotten to tell her something that’s really important. So I made a list. I know the accumulation of wisdom is a lifelong task and can’t be hurried or culled from someone else’s hands –

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Posted on December 2nd 2011 in Notes to My Daughters, The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

What Price Beauty

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I spent a lot of years in the Beauty/Fashion industry… I starved myself like everyone else did.  Looking beautiful and sexy was a different kind of nourishment, and I made the tradeoff gleefully.  But looking back, I’ve had lots of second thoughts about the unrealistic dream of beauty we’ve left our daughters.  Real women don’t

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Posted on November 18th 2011 in The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

Body of Wisdom

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and just wanted to cry?  I did that one recent morning, having had too little sleep and far too little coffee to cope with revelation.  My body wasn’t any of the things I’d wanted it to be… that was clear from the get to.  Not tall as Julia

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Posted on November 18th 2011 in The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

Friends to the End

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“Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are.” Russian Proverb “Laugh and the world laughs with you.  Cry and you cry with your girlfriends.” —Laurie Kuslansky Thick, thin, life, death, moments, decades, loves, losses.  Hearts blood or chicken soup, it’s the women friends who’ve been there.  Advice or a boot in the

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Posted on November 11th 2011 in Women

Time Shares in My Body

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“How would you like to do a sacred ceremony to free you from whatever you choose not to carry with you, anymore?” my Medicine Woman friend asked me earnestly.  “In tribal custom,” she continued, “when the time comes for you to become a Wise Elder it’s necessary to become whole again for the good of

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Posted on October 28th 2011 in Medicine, Women

What I Learned About Love

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I wanted to love and be loved forever.  I wanted to grow old with the man I loved.  Like Yeats with Maude Gonne, we’d love the sorrows of each others’ changing faces, and it wouldn’t matter one whit if we weren’t young and beautiful anymore, because we’d laugh together at the losses and infirmities, and

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Posted on October 21st 2011 in Love, The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

On the Death of a Child

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Losing a child is a special kind of grief, irrevocably out of sync with nature.  We’re not supposed to bury our children — the mind and heart rebel and struggle to find a place to contain the unbearable and unthinkable. We give birth to infinite love when we give birth to our children.  Joy, hope,

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Posted on April 10th 2011 in Death, Family, Sorrow, Women

Swimming in the Ancestral Gene Pool

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Because she didn’t understand that love was meant to be soft and warm, but she intended to be loving, nonetheless, my mother gave from her brain, instead of her heart.  I believe her heart had been battered shut in childhood by a tyrannical father and ineffectual mother, but her mind was limitless and her teaching

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Posted on February 17th 2011 in Family, Women

Some Things You Never Forget

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Some things you never forget.  Like the comfort of your father’s hand in yours when you’re small and afraid, or the final ember of light in the eyes of your dying child. Other threads are inextricably woven into the softer fabric of soul. The sensuous, cold satin of summer’s first ice cream on your five

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Posted on December 4th 2010 in Life, Sorrow, Women

What I Think About Life, So Far

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By the grace of God and a fast outfield, I find myself the mother of a 21 year old, born so many years after my first two daughters, it might as well be considered a separate lifetime Dakota is perched on the precarious edge of womanhood now, and she’s a deep one, never precipitous in

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Posted on December 4th 2010 in Family, Happiness, Love, Loving Life, Women

Womanhood = Triage

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Women have always rocked the cradle, supported their partners, striven to make the planet a habitable place. These days, they also head families, earn their own keep, watchdog the environment, fight the lies society abounds with, “earn the bacon and fry it up in a pan,” raise their children, often alone, and struggle to prevail

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Posted on December 4th 2010 in Women
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