A True Story About Motherhood from the Past

4 Comments »

Bronwyn at three and a half was already a Montessori scholar. Daily she trudged to an enlightened classroom where a teacher who genuinely liked children taught her how to scrub her desk with soapsuds, mess it up with fingerpaint and repeat the process. She was understandably enthralled. So much so, that Cee Cee at 2½

...continue reading
Posted on May 9th 2014 in Family, Women

A Few Thoughts on Mother’s Day

8 Comments »

I had a very hard time with my Mother, her words mostly wounding, her anger terrifying. It was my father’s kind and loving heart that saved my childhood and my spirit. So when Mother’s Day comes round a tug of war ensues. I feel my heart segue-ing not to  memories of my own childhood but

...continue reading
Posted on May 9th 2014 in Family, Life, Love, Sorrow, Women

Chinese Sexual Secrets So Secret, Nobody Knows They’re There

10 Comments »

Western women never reach higher than the 5th level of orgasm,” my Chinese Medicine teacher told me.  As he was both a Master Martial Artist and an MD as well as a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, I thought I’d better pay attention.  “In China, the ninth level would be considered minimal expectation.  One thousand strokes

...continue reading
Posted on March 28th 2014 in Health, Life, Love, Martial Arts, Women

The Insecurity List

4 Comments »

It all started with a cocktail party conversation about the surprises Middle Age throws at you (hot flashes?  Seriously?) and what to do about them – but it ended in everybody glumly deciding a facelift might be the only hope for a happy future after middle age sets in.  Nobody admitted to having had any

...continue reading
Posted on March 21st 2014 in Beauty, Women

Now My Hair Needs a Plastic Surgeon, Too? You’ve Got to Be Kidding

13 Comments »

I admit it.  I loved my hair.  All those wild red Irish tresses were as much my signature as the freckles that went with them.  By age 30 I knew I’d never let my hair go grey, red was too much part of me. What I didn’t know then was that color would be the

...continue reading
Posted on February 14th 2014 in Beauty, Health, Life, Women

When Your Inside Doesn’t Match Your Outside Anymore

2 Comments »

A snapshot can do it… a store window reflection…  a chance remark by a friend.  It’s the moment you realize you’re not young anymore.  You’re not old either, thank the Lord, just – you know, not young.  You don’t feel any different on the inside.  But your inside doesn’t match your outside the way it

...continue reading
Posted on February 2nd 2013 in Life, Loving Life, Women

A Christmas Story

6 Comments »

Love manifests in the strangest ways.  Just like courage. And understanding. Sometimes it sneaks up on you and you don’t realize how great a gift it is or how much self-sacrifice was required of the giver. Until later, much later in the game of life, when you’ve grown old enough to know that nothing is

...continue reading
Posted on December 16th 2012 in Family, Life, Women

My Sister

12 Comments »

I have a beloved sister, Conny, nearly 13 years younger than I.  We’re quite different in appearance, profession, proclivities, talents and even in sexual orientation, but in our hearts, we’re pretty much cut from the same cloth.  We’ve worked together in one way or another, for a lifetime, certain this is not the first lifetime

...continue reading
Posted on December 7th 2012 in Family, Women

The Case for Healthy Denial

6 Comments »

My friends are reaching birthday numbers they thought they’d never have to cope with, taking up Causes or Yoga, planning retirement, talking about their portfolios, their golf game and their cholesterol.  They’re also burying their parents, becoming rich and Republican, having grandchildren and heart attacks – and oddest of all, they’re calling themselves Seniors. How

...continue reading
Posted on November 30th 2012 in Life, Women

Reflections

No Comments »

I recently spent a hilarious afternoon at the hairdresser, as all the women there and the witty, astute owner of the place, shared our strategies for never really seeing ourselves in the mirror again… except, of course, when we’re at the hairdresser and look our absolute best.  We each had our own mid-life mirror-avoidance technique

...continue reading
Posted on November 30th 2012 in Life, Women

The Rip Van Winkle Effect

4 Comments »

“Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty. They merely move it from their faces into their hearts.”                                                                          -Martin Buxbaum Somebody sent me this quote and my first thought was ‘But it would really be nice to  keep it in both places, wouldn’t it?’  Our generation is famous for wanting

...continue reading
Posted on October 13th 2012 in Women

Facing Your Mother in the Mirror

No Comments »

  This blog appeared in the New York Times on January 15, 2013. If you’d like to read it, please follow this link for the full text: New York Times, Face to Face With Mom in the Mirror  

...continue reading
Posted on October 6th 2012 in Family, Women

Heart Murmurs

8 Comments »

I’ve been having an imaginary conversation with my heart lately.  Not the physical heart exactly, although I admire its pluck and constancy enormously.  But the metaphoric heart of me that loves, not necessarily wisely, but pretty well, and that has taken a lot of hits over the years. It occurred to me one day, while

...continue reading
Posted on September 29th 2012 in Happiness, Love, Loving Life, Sorrow, Women

You Jump… I Jump…

4 Comments »

I confess to feeling slightly foolish blogging about Titanic, but the phenomenon of Dakota and her pals going to see it in Imax 3-D – for their 34th lifetime viewing – set me to pondering what on earth could have precipitated that kind of devotion to a movie. OK. In the interest of full disclosure,

...continue reading
Posted on September 22nd 2012 in Family, Love, Women

What’s in a Name?

8 Comments »

When I was a child, I thought of my mother’s sister Mary as the Dowager Empress of the World.  She was tall and stately and would sit on her chair like a queen on a throne, her adoring daughters dancing attendance on her as if she thoroughly deserved it.  In truth, she probably did, as

...continue reading
Posted on July 7th 2012 in Family, Women
Facebook
Facebook
Follow by Email
RSS
Google+
http://www.cathycashspellman.com/category/women
GoodReads