A Few Thoughts on Mother’s Day

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I had a very hard time with my Mother, her words mostly wounding, her anger terrifying. It was my father’s kind and loving heart that saved my childhood and my spirit. So when Mother’s Day comes round a tug of war ensues. I feel my heart segue-ing not to  memories of my own childhood but

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Posted on May 9th 2014 in Family, Life, Love, Sorrow, Women

Chinese Sexual Secrets So Secret, Nobody Knows They’re There

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Western women never reach higher than the 5th level of orgasm,” my Chinese Medicine teacher told me.  As he was both a Master Martial Artist and an MD as well as a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, I thought I’d better pay attention.  “In China, the ninth level would be considered minimal expectation.  One thousand strokes

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Posted on March 28th 2014 in Health, Life, Love, Martial Arts, Women

A Shared History

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Shared history has immense power.  I didn’t know how much until my divorce.  It wasn’t only my future dreams that vanished with my husband, but the comfort of shared history that had been far more a source of strength for me than I’d realized.  We were the same age, so we shared the same jargon,

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Posted on March 14th 2014 in Life, Love

I Love My Dog

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I’m in love with my dog.  There’s really no other way to express it.  He’s a former pound-puppy, rescued from the Humane Society at 5 months, now grown to 120 pounds of pure, unadulterated love and devotion. When Dakota went off to college five years ago, and my nest was disturbingly empty for the first

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Posted on December 21st 2013 in Family, Life, Love

Heart Murmurs

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I’ve been having an imaginary conversation with my heart lately.  Not the physical heart exactly, although I admire its pluck and constancy enormously.  But the metaphoric heart of me that loves, not necessarily wisely, but pretty well, and that has taken a lot of hits over the years. It occurred to me one day, while

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Posted on September 29th 2012 in Happiness, Love, Loving Life, Sorrow, Women

You Jump… I Jump…

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I confess to feeling slightly foolish blogging about Titanic, but the phenomenon of Dakota and her pals going to see it in Imax 3-D – for their 34th lifetime viewing – set me to pondering what on earth could have precipitated that kind of devotion to a movie. OK. In the interest of full disclosure,

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Posted on September 22nd 2012 in Family, Love, Women

Loving Love Poetry

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You can’t grow up to be a writer of love stories, if you aren’t an incurable romantic. Despite my own history of picking lemons in the Garden of Love – and oxytocin notwithstanding – I’ve found that I need to believe in true love.  I have seen it – not often – but enough to

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Posted on January 13th 2012 in Love, Poetry, The Philosopher’s Teacup

Biology in the Bedroom

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Ever wonder why women have sex and think they’ve fallen in love, while men have sex and think they’ve just had sex?  I may have stumbled onto an answer worth passing along.  I’m not sure I can affect anything in the interaction of the genders by making this information public, but if it could simply

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Posted on January 11th 2012 in Love, The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

What I Learned About Love

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I wanted to love and be loved forever.  I wanted to grow old with the man I loved.  Like Yeats with Maude Gonne, we’d love the sorrows of each others’ changing faces, and it wouldn’t matter one whit if we weren’t young and beautiful anymore, because we’d laugh together at the losses and infirmities, and

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Posted on October 21st 2011 in Love, The Philosopher’s Teacup, Women

Divorce… and the Grace to Go Forward with Courage

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“Language instead of tears.  Anger instead of pent-up misery.  Action and change instead of acceptance and self defeat.  A warrior instead of a victim.” —Nellis Wong, Poet, founder, the Women Writers Union I was married for twenty years to a man I loved far too much for far too long.  It never, not even for

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Posted on October 14th 2011 in Love

What I Think About Life, So Far

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By the grace of God and a fast outfield, I find myself the mother of a 21 year old, born so many years after my first two daughters, it might as well be considered a separate lifetime Dakota is perched on the precarious edge of womanhood now, and she’s a deep one, never precipitous in

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Posted on December 4th 2010 in Family, Happiness, Love, Loving Life, Women
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