It’s who we are. On the Inside . Untouched by time or infirmity. Untrammeled by sorrows and losses and terrible truths. Unfettered by the vulnerability of old age or the fear of oblivion. Inside we are forever young. Continue reading “Forever Young” »
A snapshot can do it… a store window reflection… a chance remark by a friend. It’s the moment you realize you’re not young anymore. You’re not old either, thank the Lord, just – you know, not young. You don’t feel any different on the inside. But your inside doesn’t match your outside the way it used to and suddenly you know it.
Your friends are getting face lifts, so you stand in front of the newly unfriendly mirror, pulling up your cheeks and pushing your neck around. Tautness makes you look so much better you don’t ever want to let go because now it’s clear to you that your libido may be friskier than your face. Continue reading “When Your Inside Doesn’t Match Your Outside Anymore” »
I’ve been having an imaginary conversation with my heart lately. Not the physical heart exactly, although I admire its pluck and constancy enormously. But the metaphoric heart of me that loves, not necessarily wisely, but pretty well, and that has taken a lot of hits over the years.
It occurred to me one day, while reading a Chinese medical Text that explained how the heart is the seat of the intellect, the emotions and the spirit, as well as the fountainhead of love – that this is a really big lot of stuff to be in charge of. No wonder one in three women now dies of heart failure. So I decided to acknowledge my Herculean heart as best I could. Continue reading “Heart Murmurs” »
At the top of my list of accessible help for much of life’s dis-ease, are healing baths. And I confess they head the list because they’re not only therapeutic, they’re really pleasurable. It’s part aromatherapy, part herbalism, part homeopathy, and all it takes to have these beautiful baths at your fingertips is to keep on hand a small larder of essential oils, herbs and homeopathic remedies. When you see how easily they turn the tide for the body, mind or spirit, I predict you’ll be just as pleasurably hooked as I am.
Here are a few of my favorite baths to get you started. Continue reading “Cathy Takes to the Tub” »
“Inside every older person is a younger person – wondering what the hell happened.”
—Cora Harvey Armstrong
“You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen. But if you are beautiful at sixty, it will be your soul’s own doing.”
The arrival of a brand New Year (always a treat to be able to begin again, isn’t it?), plus a cockeyed economy, and an article in a scientific journal that suggests we may all now live to 120, have prompted me to think more than I usually do about this strange business of growing older. (Something I try to avoid altogether, ever since my accumulating birthdays seem to be adding up to alarming new numbers!)
“You don’t get to choose how you’re going to die. Or when. You can decide how you’re going to live now.”
—Joan Baez, Folksinger
When my daughter died at thirty-five, in the midst of my grief, I had an irrational recurrent guilt that I hadn’t bought her more hot fudge sundaes. She loved them so, but in a lifetime of illness and heart problems, her weight was always her bane, and so hot fudge sundaes were few and far between for her. Continue reading “What Do You Love?” »
Dakota is perched on the precarious edge of womanhood now, and she’s a deep one, never precipitous in her approach to life, always observing and assessing. Because of the difference in our ages I sometimes wonder when we speak of important question marks in life whether she’s tucking away what we say to each other on the great tape-recorder of soul, for some faraway day, when I’m just a memory, and she’s standing at the kitchen window, wishing she could share a cup of tea with me again… just as I often find myself wishing I could sit down with my own parents, now long gone, to share some thoughts on what the years have wrought. I wonder if whatever I say now will seem quaint and old fashioned by then, or if whatever comes directly from the heart, never ages at all.